Unconditional Love ?!

Some parents Loooove thier children so much , that they tell them positive things,tell them things to boost thier egos ,spoil them with love and materialistic things , tell them that they are special and treat them as such, these kids will grow up to feel loved and have self-confidence (regardless if it's the healthy self-love or not ) but the important thing is that there will be
self-confidence .

And some parents think that the child belongs to them that he /she is part of them not seperate , especially if for example , the daughter resembles the mother (personality and looks or either or ) , these parents make fun of thier children ,mock them ,critisize them all the time (just because someone did that to them or the child has something in common with the parent and that parent hates that thing in her/himself ). It's one thing to critisize , the child (regardless of the age , child , teen or adult child ) , but everyday ?! . The child will have low-selfesteem , and no self-confidence .

Some mothers can't seperate between her needs and the child's needs , she thinks that her needs are the same as the child's needs , or are more important , and here where you have the child parenting the parent as oppose to the parent parenting the child , which ofcource doesn't make sense !.the child (again , regardless of the age ) is not the parent's servant ! ,we know that as one grows old as in (the parents ) they need support from thier offseprings , so I'm not talking about that kind of needs that are natural from the parents to need , I'm talking about the needy parent ,who since the adult child was very young , the child thought that he/she needs to yield to his parent's needs ,so that the parent wont feel upset or angry .

Most of the time , the parent from the other gender isn't as good ,
Example:

A father rubbing his daughters (who are children not teens or older )ears or twisting them till they turn red, while talking to them in an angry tone.

The same father telling his daughter (after doing /saying something he doesn't like)
"If you do this again , I will slaughter you " while holding her neck and almost chocking her .
(and the thing she did/said doesn't deserve all this abuse.)

Here you have Narcissistic Parents ...

It's always better to treat the child with extra love and spoil them and tell them that they are special as oppose to mock and critisize them.

Here you'll raise Narcissistic kids ...