but seek not to make them like you

"Your Children are NOT your children
They are the sons and daughters of life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. "

Just because your child works with you doesn't mean he/she has to be you , and each child has his own personality that which shouldn't derive from the parent's personality. I've seen narcissistic parents who try to make thier 6 year old fashion queens , just because it's thier child and she must be pretty like them ,or those who control thier baby by fattening him/her up and then there are those whose needs should be met and the child plays the parent instead of the opposite . Let the child be him/herself .
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